Almost every year, my family has a gingerbread house contest on Thanksgiving. (It is actually a keenly designed diversion to keep the entire family out of the kitchen for a few hours!) Over time, the contest has increased in its importance as the winner gets to choose post-dinner television viewing.
This year, my dad joined the fray in an attempt to see more football action and less Will Ferrell dressed as an elf.
As the work progressed, I glanced over and noticed my dad hard at work. Now, my dad's fingers are about triple the width of my fingers. Such close, fine-motor work was not easy for him. He struggled. His eyes rarely left the project and he uttered a few interesting vocabulary words that I've never heard before.
As dinner time approached and the contest ended, his house looked something like this:
Needless to say, my dad didn't win. However, his only response was-- "Guess I'll need to try that again next time." There was no moping or complaining. Just a realization that there was more work to be done.
No one at the table said any of the following:
This year, my dad joined the fray in an attempt to see more football action and less Will Ferrell dressed as an elf.
As the work progressed, I glanced over and noticed my dad hard at work. Now, my dad's fingers are about triple the width of my fingers. Such close, fine-motor work was not easy for him. He struggled. His eyes rarely left the project and he uttered a few interesting vocabulary words that I've never heard before.
As dinner time approached and the contest ended, his house looked something like this:
Needless to say, my dad didn't win. However, his only response was-- "Guess I'll need to try that again next time." There was no moping or complaining. Just a realization that there was more work to be done.
No one at the table said any of the following:
- "You came into this with limited skills and background knowledge. You just can't do it."
- "You should have someone do all the hard parts for you next year."
- "You'll probably never be a professional gingerbread house builder. You don't need this."
Everyone can do it. We just have to believe. (Fat fingers and all, dad!)



